Hello my beautiful readers and welcome back to yet another post here on my site! I’m especially excited about today’s post because it is the first of many regarding relationships with God as the center! I’ve enlisted the help of Devon and together we have come up with 5 tips for being in a godly relationship. Now we definitely do not have all of the answers but these five things are some of the most important things we’ve learned as a couple to keep our relationship Christ centered. So if you’re interested keep reading!
- Make Sure You Both Have Your Own Relationship With God
In order to have a God centered relationship, you need to have your own personal relationship with God preferably before you even start dating. It would be difficult to have godly relationship if you don’t have your own relationship with Him. As I’ve shared before in the past, I was single exclusively for a little over two years before I met Devon and during that time one of my focuses was to make sure my relationship with God was on point. This meant spending quiet time with Him daily, reading my word, learning more about the Bible so I could be equipped to spread His word, and use the platform He’s given me. So when I met Devon things between us instantly connected on a spiritual level because we each had our own personal relationship before God decided to join us together. This has also made it easier when issues come up between us because we have that foundation to always turn to and rely on.
2. Study The Word Together
Studying the word together is a sign to God that you both are attempting to honor Him by following His rules and seeking His direction on the relationship. Further more, studying the word together will expose if both of you all are ready for the next step in the relationship, which is marriage. In the word there aren’t tips or study guides on relationships or situationships, only marriage. Marriage is a sacred covenant to God, so studying and applying God’s word to the relationship will help it grow in God’s way only.
3. Go To God About Your Problems, Not Your Friends.
Now I know most of us have had issues within a relationship and we’ve gone to our close friend groups to discuss what’s going on and to also seek some answers on how to handle them. I’m not saying you shouldn’t talk to your friends about your relationship but ultimately humans are not perfect and we get things wrong. We can also be biased especially since in most cases when we tell our friends what’s going on its going to be from our side of what occurred and not the latter. God isn’t biased and is also never wrong. Going to God about your disagreements allows you to understand the real underlying problem and also allows God to provide you the solution to fix it. Not all of your “friends” want to see your relationship work out, but God does, if it’s according to His will.
4. Seek godly Advice From Experienced And Successful Married Couples or Called Pastors and Ministers of God.
In the word there are scriptures that says it is wise to seek counsel. Proverbs 11:14 says “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” (ESV). Seeking godly wisdom sets us up for good feedback from a different set of eyes (called eyes at that) to really share what could need improvement in the relationship and also offer wisdom on how to change and enhance the relationship/marriage through God’s eyes only. Feedback simply means to point out behavior and how it impacted your significant other. So if properly used it can be a tool that keeps each party sharp for the duration of the relationship.
5. Pray Together
Now this may seem so simple but , it’s truly the most important thing to do especially pertaining to being in a godly relationship and marriage. The reason being is because the enemy hates you and your relationship, and the last thing he wants to see is a couple joined together by God to do work for his kingdom. It’s one thing for you as an individual to be going hard for Jesus, but two of you? The enemy truly hates that and will do everything in his power to shut your relationship down. This is something I’ve learned personally because Devon and I have been through so many spiritual attacks as a couple and I know it’s because there is such a strong calling on our lives together. When those attacks rise against us we fight with prayer because we know thats the only way to fight the enemy in the spiritual realm. The enemy is desperate y’all and he knows his time is getting closer and closer to ending and he’s going to attack every single relationship or marriage that he can. He hates families and he especially hates Christian families. Prayer is our weapon and you are much stronger together.
I pray you all enjoyed this post and was able to get something out of this whether you are single, in a relationship, engaged or even already married! Once again Devon and I are not perfect and we don’t have it all together but we love the Lord and the tips we’ve shared above have helped us and strengthened our relationship greatly as we strive to honor God and fulfill His purpose for our lives.
This does wrap up another post, if you have any questions for us, please feel free to leave a comment below. As always Stay Gorgeous and I love You!