Hello my lovely people and welcome back once again! So today’s topic is something I had planned on talking about literally three months ago. I mean I had typed up the title and it’s been sitting in my drafts until now and I’m excited to dive in!
I’m not sure when this started but I’ve had this need to control everything including who I dated. So literally I had this idea of the perfect guy in my head and that’s the man I wanted. He had to be tall, an athlete, a few tattoos didn’t hurt, dressed nice, and oh be a Christian. It was ironic because the things on my list were all physical things and the most important were generally always last. So I’ve stated before in my Why I Chose To Be Single For a Year post I’ve only been serious about two guys in my life, and don’t get me wrong they were both great guys and I’m still close to both of them even now. Where I think went wrong with both of those situationships was 1. God wasn’t the center and 2. I went into them with my own selfish needs and it wasn’t until I started embracing my single season that I learned this lesson in its entirety.
Y’all, God does not need your help finding a man. I know someone didn’t get that so let me type it in all caps. GOD DOES NOT NEED YOUR HELP FINDING A MAN and here’s why. Y’all we serve a God who knows exactly what we need and when we need it. I thought with those relationships that I needed them and that without being in one I would be nothing. I thought that I needed to be married and starting a family by 21 ( I’m turning 24 this year and I’m still single so we see how that worked out LOL). What I had to realize was that I needed to trust that God would give me exactly what I needed when it was time. See that’s a message right there. Sometimes God doesn’t allow things to happen because even though it might be something you may want it’s not what you need. There are so many things I thought I wanted and God withheld them from me and though I didn’t understand why then, later on I was truly grateful!
Ladies, if it’s God’s will for you to be married then it will happen. God’s time isn’t the same as our time and when he’s ready for something to happen it will happen! So rest your pretty little head and focus on what God wants you to do and allow him to do the rest. I can tell you from personal experience that trying to “help” God find the man you’re supposed to be with will never work out, because 1. God doesn’t need your help because he already knows who he (the future hubs) is and 2. humans are not perfect and we are pretty much guaranteed to make the wrong decision while God is perfect and doesn’t make mistakes! The Bible says ” He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22. Ladies pay attention to this it says he, not she who finds a husband! Your husband is being prepared just for you and when it’s time God will open his eyes and he will come find you! Now what you need to worry about is are you allowing yourself to be prepared for your man of God or are you still too busy trying to do things your own way? Trust in the lord my sisters, and I promise he will not fail you!
This does wrap up another post and as always stay gorgeous and I love you guys!